The role parents and adults play in a child’s development is very essential if they were to grow up into normal adults. This is because children over the age of 2 and under the age of 6, as young as they may appear, learn fast through doing and copy pasting behaviors therefore they need proper environments and proper corrective measures whenever they go wrong. Proper day cares and play mates also define what they grow up into. For instance a boy that grows up in a family environment where the father is abusive, chances are high he may grow up to become an irresponsible adult living an extreme life of either being abusive or lacking self esteem and motivation.
A low self esteem is the first step into many of the problems found in our societies; rapists and drug addicts are only but a few of such resultants while a high self esteem means to be accepted and valued in a way that this growing future generation feels wanted and appreciated in their surroundings . Consider a family that values education in that every family member is expected to be a top performer. In such a setting, children who do excel in their tests are likely fit in well thus high self esteem. On other hand, children who appear helpless in their academics and are subjected criticism from their teachers and parents suffer from low self esteem. From a smile at a time and constant attention grows a child that feels loved and appreciated (NAESP 1991). This in turn helps them as they reach a school going age and learn to interact with their surrounding helping them evaluate and choose good playmates and adults they can look up to.
Praising a child for hard work either at school or at home helps develop their talent, but over praising them makes it habitual and can be disastrous when at a given point in time they encounter failure at first glance this way, they are bound to get hurt. Finding therefore better ways of praising children not only builds their self confidence but also builds that character in a way that grows a balanced character that believes in hard work as a key to success. As much as children are not to be over praised for finishing their homework in time they also should not be praise whenever they do something wrong (Collins 1984). Learning to give constructive criticism to good performance in a way helps better growth, a proper example for is would be a mother who by reminding me of how hard I had studied whenever I brought home from school good results made me study even harder to make her happy.
Every child is born in their own unique way. However the caregiver and a culture to which a child is attached to strongly affect their emotional control in a way that teaches us to understand how to take care of them and teach them whenever a bad habit if acquired. Where we live, how we interact with each other when we are near them and also who we name as their care givers whether a professional nanny, the male or the female parent, the grandparents, the elder siblings or it could be the neighborhood teenager who comes in as a baby sitter are just some of the care givers. A culture will include the parentage to which a baby is born for instance Black American family will have a way of life that’s different from a traditional Asian family. A child with proper care in early life tends have proper social relations as they grow up and this may result in stable emotions.(Collins 1984) On the other hand, a child that grew up lacking proper care would end up emotionally under developed.
Lastly, physical punishment is the intentional act of instilling physical pain by rod or by bare hand to punish errant children in order to prevent them from redoing their mistakes again. A saying goes spare the rod spoil the child supports physical punishment as an educative form of punishment as it instills instant discipline to the errant. Quick and less costly, this form of punishment saves time allowing both parties to get back to their tasks. A school example is where a teacher punishes a student that fails to do their homework an thereafter the two can do their remaining class hours without having to waste time. The cons against such type of punishment will include: lowering the self esteem of both parties which might have bad impacts; it being a method that has short term results renders it ineffective. Alternatively, we might use other methods that will prove why the action was wrong to the errant child in a way that they would not want to repeat the same mistakes; physical punishment may also train our children to be violent in a way that they turn into rebels(Vockell 1991), bully their peers and carry such an out dated form of punishment into their adulthood; and this form of punishment is outlawed in many states around the world as it’s a from of child abuse that might get the punisher into trouble.